The Starting Point
Living the life you want to live is built on the fundamental principles we get from the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy skills training program, and the theories of personality development we get from Shema Therapy. Creating a lifestyle that promotes these principles revolves around living a values-based life. In order to explore what stops us from implementing this balanced and effective way of living, we first have to develop a solid understanding of who we are, what areas of life are important to us, and how we want to behave inside of these areas. The following is a list of steps we can take to achieve this. PLEASE TAKE YOUR TIME and don't rush through these steps.
Step 1
Begin by Accepting the PIG in your life!!
Watch the Video & use the Worksheet Daily!!
Step 2
Explore your Personality System as it is RIGHT NOW!
Watch the Video & Complete the Worksheet!!
Step 3
Get your head around the philosphy
Step 4
Understand the Process we Need to go through!
Step 5
Define the Areas of Life Important to YOU!
Watch the Video & Complete the Worksheet!!
Step 6
Explore and Define your beliefs about the 5 Common Core Values!
Watch the Video & Complete the Worksheet!!
Step 7
Specify your beliefs in specifc Areas of Life!!
Watch the Video & Complete the Worksheet!!
Completing each of these steps gives us an idea of what it might look like to Live the Life we Want to Live and be the person we want to be, in the areas of life that are important to us, according to our authentic core values. If we struggle to even complete these exercises, it might be an opportunity to explore the reason why, not from a judgmental standpoint, but from a place of curiosity. Being interested in why we fail to take an action we know will be effective to support living the life we want to live opens up the possibility to see the different stories that exist within our system.
The next steps involve implementing this way of living into a structured lifestyle. We do this to create a balanced approach to Living the Life you Want to Live!! If you've completed these exercises, or you can’t figure out why not, and you are open to a conversation that can throw some light on how to make these next steps possible in your life, then come join the conversation online in any of our FREE weekly groups to discuss your struggles further.
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